Today while working outside trying to rake the 2 1/2 feet of snow and ice off my roof, I had some time to think... some "man time". As the day turned to dusk, and my frozen body was rocking back and forth on the ladder I peered into the house only to find my wife and daughters nestled on the couch next to the wood stove watching a program on television. And all I could think of at the time was, "Geeze, do you think she could have turned on the back lights for me? I mean, I'm out here in the dark for Pete's sake." Now before you jump ugly on me for my comments, let me just say that my wife is the hardest working woman I know. She runs the house, pays the bills, takes care of the kids and all their appointments, as well as the pets.... She cooks, cleans, and the list goes on and on.... But what I was having was a "Charles Ingalls" moment.... Let me explain...
The past three days may have been the worst days of our married life together so far... three days ago our whole family came down with a stomach flu.... my wife and I were out of commission... and there were two of the four kids holding buckets (if you get my drift)... every seven minutes someone was in the bathroom with #2 or #3(the medical term is emesis)...It was so bad, I was taking the bucket from the kids! We both looked at each other and shared the common look..."Is this really happening?"..... While laid out on the pullout sofa, our family did get a lot of "family time". We were watching a program on television some of you might recognize..."Little House on the Prairie"... for those of you who don't remember, it was a show about the "old days" when Pa worked outside all day, and Ma tended to the home... The whole point of this long drawn out monologue is this... In the episode we saw, Pa came in from work and lunch was waiting for him.... and Ma came over and kissed him on the forehead and he ate... After lunch he went out to finish his work for the day.... and I thought, "That's it!" That's what every man wants.... Not SEX like most of you think... don't get me wrong, sex is still high on the list for men but what they REALLY want and need today is for their loving women to take care of them.... Not in a sense that they need to be waited on hand and foot... but just a simple gesture like making lunch, or smiling and giving them a thank you kiss after they come in from shoveling snow off their wife's car, or a glass of water after they've been outside working in the hot sun in the summer. A simple gesture to say that they're being taken care of by you... So you see, when I said "Geeze, do you think she could have turned on the back lights for me? I mean, I'm out here in the dark for Pete's sake." I was having a Charles Ingalls moment..... By taking the time to "take care" of your man, you will reinforce that the work he is doing is "manly" and appreciated by the whole household.... this appreciation is needed by all men... it's what makes them want to act like men... you see, if you want your man to act like a "MAN" then you must do the following: Allow him to do "stupid" house maintenance and outside work (by allowing him to do this, he will think he is taking care of you), Then, take the time to say "thank you" by meeting one of his needs (food, water, affection, etc.). This will register in his brain as "I'm taking care of her and she's taking care of me." By allowing this process to continue and evolve, you will find that he draws closer to you and actually pays more attention to you.... At least, it seemed to work for Charles Ingalls......
(I'd like to take time to thank Michael Landon for all of his hard work with the Little House series.... I hope he looks down on us an knows that he left quite an impression and it's still just as good today as it was years ago..... if you don't believe me, pick up the dvd's you won't be disappointed.....)
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